Fitting Out

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Why is it that from the moment we're born, most people travel down a path that would eventually lead to us fitting into societies requirements as to how we should live our lives.

Perhaps it has something to do with our overwhelming need for connection.

To be apart of something is to connect with others who are apart of the same thing. Hence the draw to religious communities, political parties, sporting teams and so much more.

For most of us, this is how it is and how it will always be.

For the ones who society looks up to (leaders), there is another path to which they have taken.

This path isn't really a path at all. It's laden with overgrown shrubs, sharp thistles and mud that's so thick that you can get stuck for quite some time.

Yes it's a treacherous road indeed and most would question why anyone would choose such a lonesome journey. To which any leader would answer, “Whenever I feel alone, I find solace in turning my head and observing others following me down the path I have built for them”.

True connection isn't about fitting in, it's about having the courage to fit out, be weird and not care about the judgement of others. Only then can you create a true following of people just as weird and wacky as you are. Willing enough to follow you anywhere.

Everybody tries to fit in. Why not try the opposite for a change?


  • Loved this. I was just thinking about this idea today, about how people can go through life finding surrogate Parents. Be it teachers, to bosses, to Governments, Religious groups, peer pressure… etc. We spend our lives trying to meet the standards somebody else has set for us. It’s so liberating to realize that you are free to define your own path in life without any guidance or standards.

    Thank you for this!

    • Jill

      Amen to that, Leigh 🙂