Creating Personal White Space

JillProductivity6 Comments

Lately I've been struggling. Struggling with the overwhelming amount of tasks laid out before me, yet struggling to relinquish my control-freak habits and trust in someone else's ability to perform menial daily tasks or create content at the level we require.

But this isn't anything new for me. I always seem to struggle to loosen my choke-hold grip on the countless tasks I have convinced myself that only I can do.

And that, my friends, is simply bullshit.

Don't get me wrong, we have sought out help and had great success with our current content writer but I have convinced myself that she is the only other person on this planet who ‘gets' what we're trying to do, in the voice we're trying to do it in.

Again, bullshit.

To ease myself into the transition I've started looking to my fave femmesΒ for some inspiration.

Fatefully (and gratefully), I stumbled onto a video from the marketing mistress herself, Marie Forleo, on going pro – a concept first coined by author Steven Pressfield.

Within these 60 minutes of magic, Marie drives home the need for creating personal white space in your life by allocating certain tasks to qualified individuals.

While I know damn well it's necessary to do this in order to create room for more growth in our business, I feel unable to take the step.

I feel frozen.

Yet I sit here feeling overwhelmed, wishing someone would swoop in and drop into my lap(top) 14 of the 15 weekly posts I need to write in order to keep our sites growing at the rate at which we prefer.

It's an unnecessary yet paralyzing predicament I have created for myself.

So will I suck it up, take the leap, outsource a chunk of my tasks, create some personal white space and allow myself to enjoy this lifestyle more? Yes….hopefully.

After all, Forleo's phrase “we can have it all but we can't do it all” keeps ringing in my ears, urging me to move forward, to take the leap and trust in someone else other than myself, Josh and our current writer, Sabrina.

Maybe I just need to baby-step it.

Or maybe I should just stop being a fucking baby, let go and trust that it will all work out.

Because chances are, it will.


  • Mark O

    Hi Guys & Gals,

    I feel the same about my content writer. She is fabtastic & shimazing and always pushes me to the front of the queue (how to win friends and influence people). I would not be surprised if we have the same writer ha ha. In fact D is such a great writer that I finally feel happy enough to pass that task on. It was hard ay first but it has to be done if people want to grow at a decent rate.
    I feel your pain about needing 15 articles plus a week, I am in the same boat with my blogs but there are always these stupid things they call ‘waiting times’ which are a huge kick in the you know whats.

    • Jill

      Hey Mark,

      Thanks for that! May I ask how you found your writer? Did you have specific requirements of her or did you just want one that could write relatively well? I find that I struggle to pass of this task because I’m searching for a writer who will maintain the same sassy/positive/happy/girly voice we’ve created for our sites. I’m sure I’ll eventually find her, she just might be more expensive than I was hoping for lol πŸ˜‰

      Are you in affiliate marketing? How many sites do you have? DO you find it overwhelming to keep up as well?

  • Fawne


    I sit with you, figuratively of course, overwhelmed and unable to jump. I keep trying to learn everything instead of just doing and learning on the way. The fault therein is that I learn too much and remember nothing! I read until my eyes cross and then I can’t see to write. Stupid, but that has been my methodology.

    I love your voice. It speaks to me. And I need to stop being a fucking baby, too. You are farther ahead than I, but I see the same horizon of trouble (unable to give control to others). So for now, I sit and stare at the clouds and wish I could go get busy with this instead of wishing it was already started!

    Stay the course,


    • Jill

      Hey Fawne (love the name btw)

      Thanks for the kind words and I have to say, last year I found myself in the same position as you. I felt nervous to start because I didn’t reeeaaallly know what I was doing. But I had (wo)man up and just get going. That’s the only way you’re going to make any sort of progress or feel any sort of accomplishment.

      Otherwise, you may find yourself sitting there, staring at the clouds and wishing you had already started πŸ˜‰

      I think you should just dive in and immerse yourself. You can learn as you go and in fact, I usually find it is best to do it that way…that way you DO remember what you’ve learned instead of just overwhelming yourself and feeling paralyzed.

      We’re here if you have any questions πŸ™‚

      • Fawne

        Hi again Jill

        Thank you a billion time over. And that’s just for loving my name!

        I am ready. I am willing. And I am on a deadline to go for it by the end of this month. Fight or flight, yes? I don’t want to keep doing what I am doing (well, the job part anyway) so I have to take the step and push off.

        I may have to take you up on the offer of answering questions…though hopefully not hourly. πŸ™‚

        • Jill

          BOOM! That’s what I’m talkin’ about! And now that you’ve put that out there publicly it can act as an accountability measure πŸ™‚

          Proud of you, girl!

          Throw yourself into the deep end. Sick or swim, baby. It’s the only way to go. The best way to start (I think, because that’s what happened with us) is before you feel like you’re truly ready because if you wait until you feel ‘totally ready’ you may never start.

          Keep me in the loop with how it all goes for you, I’m rooting for you πŸ™‚